I’m Happy And Pleased To Welcome Wellness & Recovery Coach, “Lesa Densmore” As My Recovery Guest…

Hello And Welcome Friends, Recovery Supporters, And New Visitors,
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Today I’m very excited to introduce a wonderful recovery coach and speaker of Problem Gambling. And those of you who are in recovery from addicted compulsive gambling, this is an awesome treat for all us!

Please meet my guest ‘Lesa Densmore’, Recovery Wellness Coach, Speaker, and Advocate. Lesa and I met through LinkedIn’s professional media site. We had so much in common that I thought, “this girl needs to be shared and spotlighted on my recovery blog! Lets learn more about who Lesa is, and all she does to help others recover from compulsive addicted gambling
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My story begins here,



Lesa Densmore
(Story Courtesy Of http://www.iamrecovery.com/spotlight10/Densmore.cfm/

I am Lesa, 38, Wellness Coach and recovering compulsive gambler.

My life has been full of successful athleticism. In all my years of competing, nothing compares to the 7-year battle I had for life from my gambling addiction and the sense of accomplishment I have today being in recovery. The flirting began in my teens with bingo and lottery tickets and spending hundreds of dollars a week. By my late twenties, I had a problem gambling with internet poker and spending hundreds of dollars a day at casinos. By age 31, I had a full-blown addiction spending thousands of dollars a week.

Explaining the seven years would take pages. Lying, manipulating, stealing, followed by pain, shame and guilt and I couldn’t stop. I was living in NY State.
My family was in Maine. There are strong stigmas, so I didn’t talk about my gambling problem. When I found that gambling was recognized as an addiction, a weight was lifted, but it also gave me an excuse. From the ages 32-35, I was out of control. Food, alcohol and relationship abuse complimented my gambling. I spent hours going to casinos. I had my belongings repossessed, had no home, was living in a tent, couldn’t pay my bills, was writing bad checks and lying my way through it all. The problem was known, but no one knew how bad. Financial, legal, personal issues were building. I disconnected and sunk deeper into the addiction.

In February 2006, I got professional help with counseling and outpatient services. It helped temporarily, but I fell back into full cycle. The fall was bad and no one knew. I spiraled out of control. In January 2009, I had a near suicide, but found strength to pull it together. I called my family and the N.Y. Council again. By this time, I was an expert on the illness and knew it would kill me. I had after all studied it for years while living each phase and progression. It was agreed that residential treatment was needed again. My family pulled together the funds and finally I was going to rehab.Today, after treating the illness causing the gambling, I am strong in recovery.

I can breathe, laugh, hope and help. After rehab, I was asked to go back to implement a Health Management Program and worked with the clinical/executive directors on intervention and business development. My focus now is here in New York state. I am trying to be a face behind the illness, to advocate for the best treatment and funding. I feel compelled to help those who are trying to help us, do the best job they can. I also want to help break down the stigmas. It’s not easy, but we are being heard and supported. Life after addiction can be good and it does improve. I am a compulsive gambler, and I am recovery!
My name Lesa, and this is my story.

What’s Your Story?

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Now I know when I read her story here on, “I Am Recovery”,  I thought this girl has been through so much, just like I had with my own addiction. I feel when we share our personal testimonies of what we have been through with our gambling, we tend to find, even though our paths maybe different from one another’s, we all go through the same type of feelings and symptoms of this cunning disease.

As Lesa stated in her own story, we all feel the shame, guilt, the stealing and lying, and hiding what we were doing within our addiction. I myself had a recovery coach/addictions specialist help me for a year, and I have to tell you it made all the difference in my recovery! He would not release me until I could site to him every part of the “cycle” of my addiction to gambling. Here is a little more of how Lesa helps others in recovery from addicted gambling today! She has a new blog that is a wee bit under construction, but has really good information about how she helps others from gambling addiction, so keep her blog link handy here: http://controlyourgambling.com/ and give her a visit.

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Lesa Densmore

Lesa Densmore

Professional Recovery Coach / Speaker, Consultant and Resource on Problem Gambling, and all areas of Crisis or Addiction.
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You Are Not Powerless…
My name is Lesa Densmore. I successfully help individuals and families recover from crisis and addiction. If you or someone you care about has problems associated with gambling activity, I can help. I have been there, I am now on the other side, and it is what I do.

 

Although I service all areas of crisis and addiction, I specialize in Problem Gambling and Gambling Addiction. I am a Professional Crisis and Recovery Coach, National Keynote Speaker, Educator, and Recovered Gambling Addict.

 

I have a history of success helping individuals and families get life back to manageable again after being in the throes of Problem Gambling or Gambling Addiction.

Recovery Coaching is cutting edge, unique, and person focused. It provides the one-on-one guidance and assistance needed to help individuals and families overcome the obstacles and barriers that stand in the way of life because of crisis, addiction, or problems associated with.

My Recovery Coaching Approach is un-biased, and straight forward. Realizing that there are multiple pathways to dealing with problem gambling, I assist an individual in a direction that supports their core values, goals, lifestyle, career, and family.

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So now we know a little more about Lesa, and how she helps many with recovery. It’s what she loves to do, and is very passionate about her work. If you or someone you love has a gambling problem, here is how you can contact Lesa Densmore at:
LinkedIn at: http://www.linkedin.com/in/lesadensmore/
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For more information about her ‘Wellness Recovery Coaching’, send her an Email at idassociated@live.com
I’m sure she’d be happy to aid you in your recovery. You can also Google Lesa and find some wonderful speaking engagements she has done for TV News, National Conferences, and YouTube. Here is a news link to see Lesa in action, speaking to others about problem and addicted gambling.

http://www.wbng.com/news/local/Understanding-addiction-helping-others-199245081.html?m=y&smobile=y  An Interview With A Local News Station.

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As a Wellness Coach, National Speaker, and Educator about Problem Gambling, I want to Thank Lesa for giving me the pleasure of sharing all she does with all my recovery followers & my readers! Maybe together she and I can change lives together!
And just a little advice Lesa?…. Get A Book Written Please! Thanks everyone for visiting today.

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Happiness & Blessings,
Catherine Townsend-Lyon
Author Of “Addicted To Dimes”


DP Challenge Accepted ~ We All Are Winners Money Or Not!

Daily Prompt: You’re a Winner!

You’ve just won $1 billion dollars in the local lottery. You do not have to pay tax on your winnings. How will you spend the money?

Well of course many of you know already, I don’t “Gamble”….
And I don’t want to be a “Debbie Downer” for all the rest of you fabulous people who enjoy spending a little for a chance at your piece of fortune. Sadly, the odds of winning a “Lottery” win- fall is so great that you would most likely have a better chance at getting hit by lighting, then you would winning a “State Lottery Draw Jackpot” . . . .


I spent many years employed in the “Banking” field, and oddly enough I had the good fortune to meet, “TWO” separate lottery winners in my home state of So. Oregon. I have to say though, both stories are true, and a bit sad. The first bank clients that won Oregon’s “Megabuck” lottery were an older couple, and good clients of mine. They had bought their winning tickets at a “Albertson’s” grocery store, where they shop at weekly.

She told me that she has a set of numbers she used for each weeks draw, and it was the winning ticket that won. They came into to the bank and asked if I could help them invest the some of the money, and set them up with our “Investment Specialist,” so I made them an appointment.A month or so went by, and I seen them in the bank again. She gave me the sad news that her husband was just diagnosed with MS.

They then came over and sat at my desk and told me the difficulties they have been having ever since winning their money. That their kids were all fighting because “They” didn’t “Share Enough” of the winnings with them. She then told me how all their friends and family were making them feel like “THEY” have changed since winning, but that it was the other way around. So they put their house up for sale, sadly they were moving to Carson City, NV  . . . .

They were having a house built there that will have special features so it would be a safe place once her husband became wheelchair bound with having MS. And, that was the last time I saw them. So it made me wonder about winning the lottery.

Then the following year, a young man also had won our Oregon lottery “Megabucks.” and had won $2.1 Million. He took his in a lump sum payout. I know this because he came to my desk with the check. The check, after tax was $885,000.00. He worked at a Hotel & Restaurant and ran the food service for the convention center of the hotel. His name was Steve, and he was only 24 years old. Of course he did what any 24-year-old would do if winning a lottery, he paid his mom’s house off, bought himself a new car, truck, jet-ski, and a boat!

I did open him a checking account, a money market account too. Just the interest alone from the money market was netting him in interest monthly, $2,800.00. That was more than he was making at his job, so he quit his job. What a mistake that was, because then came all the trips to “Reno and Las Vegas.” Then came all the relatives and friends out of the wood works that he didn’t know he had until he had “Money!” I did make him a appointment with an “Investment Broker,” and he attended the appointment, but never followed through with the plan. So sadly, in almost a little less than a year the money was GONE!! YUP! No Shit!
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So, my point is most likely obvious, be careful what you “WISH FOR!” Like the sayings go,
“Money Changes Everything” ~ “MO Money Mo Problems”  .  .  .  .
And please gamble and play responsively!
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God Bless All,
Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon
http://www.amazon.com/dp/0984478485
“My True Story Of Addicted Gambling”
“It Costs More Then Money ~ It almost Cost Me My Life!”