Depression Can = Suicide So The Time Is Now To Talk About It.

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*WARNING* ~ Content may not be suitable for young kids.


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No, I’m not trying to SHOCK anyone, but another suicide has happened in Hollywood. A well-known director has committed suicide, and it happens to be due to mental illness of severe depression. When will this stop? When will this loss of precious life end? How can we reach out to these people who suffer from depression and help save their lives? Many of us who have mental illness and disorders like myself, understand how depression can get so dark, that many consider the option of ending ones life. We feel so hopeless, so down and full of fear and doubt, even when good things are happening in our life, sometimes it isn’t enough to push away the darkness we seem to not be able to get out of…
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WENN / Malik Bendjelloul
Report: Director Bendjelloul committed suicide
By MALIN RISING , Associated Press
Story Courtesy Of AP…
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STOCKHOLM (AP) — Malik Bendjelloul, director of the acclaimed “Searching for Sugar Man” documentary, was widely known for his enthusiasm, kindness and high spirits — so the news Wednesday that he had taken his own life shocked colleagues around the world..
Malik Bendjelloul
Bendjelloul’s brother Johar Bendjelloul told Swedish daily Aftonbladet that his 36-year-old younger brother committed suicide Tuesday after struggling with depression for a short period.
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“Life is not always simple,” Johar Bendjelloul was quoted as saying, adding that receiving the message that his brother had committed suicide was the worst thing he had ever experienced.

“I don’t know how to handle it. I don’t know,” he said.

“It seems so unbelievable,” Chinn told The Associated Press over the telephone. “I saw him two weeks ago in London. He was so full of life, hope and optimism and happiness, and looking forward to the future and future collaborations. We were talking about working together and talking about specific ideas, so the idea that he is no longer is just too hard to process.”

The soft-spoken Bendjelloul worked as a reporter for Sweden’s public broadcaster SVT before resigning to backpack around the world. He got the idea for “Searching for Sugar Man” during one of his trips, but it would take him more than four years to complete the film.

SVT’s culture chief Eva Beckman said his death was incomprehensible.

“One always says it is unbelievable when a young person dies, or when anybody dies, but it is even more unbelievable with Malik,” she said Wednesday. “Malik was simply such an incredibly alive person.”

Beckman also praised Bendjelloul’s strong storytelling skills and his willingness to experiment with new formats.

“What really set him apart from everybody else was his passion for storytelling. He was a fantastic storyteller,” she said.
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This really is a sad story. What I just don’t understand many times when these tragedies happen, how can the people closest around you not see any WARNING SIGNS? That truly is the most baffling to those left behind. Many who have never been touched by mental and emotional illness and disorders just don’t seem to understand how others can take their own lives. Depression alone is hard, and can take you to such dark places that we feel the only way to get out of this dark fog, grasp at the clarity of life that we feel it’s our only way to “Sanity & Freedom” from blackness. I know, as many of you know I attempted suicide twice, but I was the lucky one. The guy upstairs told me I had too much to do to help others from this same fate.
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Just being able to talk about it, and looking back, I didn’t realize how painful it is to our loved one’s and friends around us, as they are the ones to have to pick up the pieces and try to make sense of it all after the person is gone. Later, as I got properly diagnosed, and reading my journals back in those dark days that seemed to never end, that’s when I realized how selfish I had been. We don’t mean to be this way, it’s the illness that gets to us. Even when I was starting recovery from my addictions, it didn’t seem as severe as my depression and agoraphobia.
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So once I started on medications to help, I started feeling more even with my moods and my thoughts.  I still struggle on some days, but that is the nature of this beast. It comes in waves, like a cycle. Learning to journal how you feel each day, then look back at them each month, really helps me to see when I do seem to get or be in a cycle. We can than use “Life Skills” we learn to work through them. But for some, even that is too hard to do when you’re in full-blown severe depression.

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*BE ALERT TO WARNING SIGNS*
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This picture above is an excellent warning sign. WHY?  If a loved one goes out and gets Life Insurance for no reason, or spur of the moment? Start asking questions. I say this because of being in recovery, many who have addiction problems and are in recovery actually DO THIS. I remember listening to one man in my “Gamblers Anonymous” meeting speak about his past “Suicide Plan.”  It really touched me. He had gambled a long time addictively.  He said he had went and bought a life insurance policy for a large amount. He was into gambling games like Dice, Poker, and Roulette. He said, “once he lost the SAME AMOUNT as the insurance policy he purchased, he then planned to commit suicide, so his wife wouldn’t be broke because of his addicted gambling addiction.” The insurance money would cover all his gambling loss’s so his wife wouldn’t HATE him when he was dead. I just sat there listening to his story and couldn’t believe what I was hearing.
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That was a pre-planned SUICIDE I was listening to! I was taken aback and shocked to say the least, that someone would actually think something like that through. I got goose bumps just hearing him speak each word. Now I understand many who may read this, may still not understand why with just depression, that a person would want to take their own life. Let me share a little research I found about just how bad depression can get for some of us…

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Definition of depression (n)

Bing Dictionary
  • de·pres·sion
  • [ di présh’n ]
  1. sadness: a state of unhappiness and hopelessness
  2. psychiatric disorder: a psychiatric disorder showing symptoms such as persistent feelings of hopelessness, dejection, poor concentration, lack of energy, inability to sleep, and, sometimes, suicidal tendencies..
  3. Common symptoms of bipolar depression include:
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    • Feeling hopeless, sad, or empty.
    • Irritability
    • Inability to experience pleasure
    • Fatigue or loss of energy
    • Physical and mental sluggishness
    • Appetite or weight changes
    • Sleep problems
    • Concentration and memory problems
    • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
    • Thoughts of death or suicide


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    Signs And Symptom Of Severe Depression:

    In the past, bipolar depression was lumped in with regular depression, but a growing body of research suggests that there are significant differences between the two, especially when it comes to recommended treatments. Most people with bipolar depression are not helped by antidepressants. In fact, there is a risk that antidepressants can make bipolar disorder worse—triggering mania or hypomania, causing rapid cycling between mood states, or interfering with other mood stabilizing drugs.
    Despite many similarities, certain symptoms are more common in bipolar depression than in regular depression. For example, bipolar depression is more likely to involve irritability, guilt, unpredictable mood swings, and feelings of restlessness. People with bipolar depression also tend to move and speak slowly, sleep a lot, and gain weight. In addition, they are more likely to develop psychotic depression—a condition in which they’ve lost contact with reality—and to experience major disability in work and social functioning.
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    Treatment Options For Depression:
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    If you spot the symptoms of bipolar depression in yourself or someone else, don’t wait to get help. Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away; in fact, it will almost certainly get worse. Living with untreated bipolar disorder can lead to problems in everything from your career to your relationships to your health. Diagnosing the problem as early as possible and getting into treatment can help prevent these complications.

    If you’re reluctant to seek treatment because you like the way you feel when you’re manic, remember that the energy and euphoria come with a price. Mania and hypomania often turn destructive, hurting you and the people around you.
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    Bipolar disorder requires long-term treatment. Since bipolar disorder is a chronic, relapsing illness, it’s important to continue treatment even when you’re feeling better. Most people with bipolar disorder need medication to prevent new episodes and stay symptom-free

  4. There is more to treatment than medication. Medication alone is usually not enough to fully control the symptoms of bipolar disorder. The most effective treatment strategy for bipolar disorder involves a combination of medication, therapy, lifestyle changes, and social support.
  5. It’s best to work with an experienced psychiatrist. Bipolar disorder is a complex condition. Diagnosis can be tricky and treatment is often difficult. For safety reasons, medication should be closely monitored. A psychiatrist who is skilled in bipolar disorder treatment can help you navigate these twists and turns…
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    *Bipolar Disorder and Suicide*
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  6. The depressive phase of bipolar disorder is often very severe, and suicide is a major risk factor. In fact, people suffering from bipolar disorder are more likely to attempt suicide than those suffering from regular depression. Furthermore, their suicide attempts tend to be more lethal.
  7. The risk of suicide is even higher in people with bipolar disorder who have frequent depressive episodes, mixed episodes, a history of alcohol or drug abuse, a family history of suicide, or an early onset of the disease..


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So I hope I’ve been able to help educate, inform, and shed a little light about depression disorder, and to know there is NO SHAME in asking for help from this destructive mental illness and disorder. There is now so much more information and helpful resources about severe depression that we should be able to help those who feel they have no options of living with severe depression. Here are just a few websites where you can get informed about depression, and how you can help. Half the battle I feel is being informed about it, and to get timely diagnosed and treated…
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http://www.mayoclinic.org
http://www.thenationalcouncil.org
http://www.suicide.org/depression-and-suicide.html
http://nami.org
http://www.mentalhealthportland.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Phone Number
1-800-273-8255
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My Thoughts and Prayers to The Bendjelloul Family & Friends
God Bless All,
Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Welcome “Dr. John McMahon” And How He Helps And Shares Hope To Alcoholics…

Welcome Recovery Friends, Seekers, And New Visitors,

There are times when I meet others who “help & share Hope” to others who are recovering addicts, I like to “Spotlight” what they do on my blog here. My new friend Dr. John McMahon and his wife Lou are fabulous people, and they care about those who have been touched by “Alcohol Addiction”…..
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I actually met John on LinkedIn as he posted a project and book he is working on “All About others Stories of Recovery,” and I decided to submit my story of addicted gambling and alcohol. I began to explore all his wonderful, and informative websites. That’s when I knew I needed to “Share” all he does with my blog readers, as I have many who visit me who have other addictions besides Addicted Gambling.
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See, I share “all things recovery” from “addicted compulsive gambling,” but I also share other addictions on my blog, because many are very similar from one addiction to the other. Many of the same “BAD” habits, behaviors, and mental and physical symptoms are the same. Like the helpful “Relapse Prevention Guide” I have listed on my resources pages, it can be used for ANY addiction. I actually went to “AA meetings” until I could find a local GA meetings (Gamblers anonymous) in my area. Many other 12-Steep meetings and books are modeled from “Alcoholics Anonymous” as they been around a very long time. But John & Lou’s approach is different, and it’s what caught my attention!
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John’s website http://bottled-Up.com  Is also what caught my eye from his “LinkedIn Profile.” Hopefully that doesn’t sound creepy….LOL, as a writer, I have to do my research! Here is a little more about his web sights and a Wee Bit about John & Lou….
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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis - Author, Counselor/Therapist, Pastoral Counselor, Psychologist, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - Exeter, DEV
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John McMahon ~ I (John) have a PhD in psychology and for years was senior lecturer on the MSc course on alcohol and drug studies. However before that I was hospitalized for alcoholism. My marriage broke up, doctors told me I had brain damage and liver damage and if I continued to drinking that I had around six months to live. I have been clean and sober now for over 28 years.

I practised as a therapist, designed and run treatment programs for addiction problems. Until recently I was the lead author of and senior lecturer on the largest Master’s level course on alcohol and drugs in the UK. This course was designed for addiction counsellors, psychologists and GP’s. I have carried out research, mainly on behaviour change in addictive behaviours and binge drinking, and have published widely and have been invited to speak at many conferences, both national and international.

More recently I designed and built an award-winning self-help website for people with drinking problems – 24/7 Help Yourself.

We are a married couple. I married Lou (then a widow) in 2008. As you can see above we have both have experienced drinking problems in previous relationships and we bring this knowledge to the website and the associated seminars and workshops. Between us we have, if not a unique experience then certainly a highly appropriate background.

“How we met is an amazing story if you are interested ask us and we may tell the story”…
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Lou Lewis  ~ I (Lou) was married to a drinker for 29 years till his death from cancer. During that time I ran a home and raised two children in that environment with very few people, including quite close friends, being aware of the situation.

I am a classically trained musician, a graduate of the Royal College of Music, London. For many years I was a singer / songwriter, made 7 albums and toured the UK, USA and South Africa giving concerts and workshops.  Although I still write and play, I don’t have the same opportunities that I had.

My autobiography, No Easy Answers, has been described as a moving and revealing book  “Giving hope to those suffering from deep emotional problems and encouragement to friends who try to help them.” and was often used as a reference book for counsellors.

Currently I have my own flourishing counselling practice where I see clients with a variety of issues, including relationship problems….
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*WELCOME TO BOTTLED-UP
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Many of the people who come to us, come because they love their drinker not because they want rid of him/her.

We are not going to tell you what to do.  However we will provide information and resources that will help you to make the right choice for you and your family.  And we will support you regardless of the decision that you make.  after all this is your life.

Most people come to us because they are confused, frustrated and feeling helpless.

We are here to help.  Lou lived with an alcoholic for 29 years and John is an alcoholic and addict who has been clean and sober for nearly 30 years.  However they are also professionals. Lou is a counsellor with her own practice and John is a Psychologist who taught alcohol and drug counsellors, GPs and psychologists about addiction and its treatment.

One of the features that most people find very useful is that we will talk about the issue from both sides, the alcoholic and the partner. This will provide you with some insight not only into what works and what doesn’t but also why some things that you feel should work, just don’t.  Wouldn’t you like to understand what is going on in your drinker’s mind?

Many people come here because they are looking for the magic formula to make their drinker stop drinking.

We really wish that this was something we could offer you.  If we did have it, we would be millionaires now – because no one has that formula.  Sorry.

What we do have is a way to change your life for the better.  That is one thing that we do promise – that if you follow our program, your life will improve.  And maybe, as a side effect of your change, your drinker will change, but that is not something that we, or anyone else, can promise.

Many people come here because they are looking for privacy and anonymity.

That is something that we can give you.  You can be as anonymous and private as you want to be.  Some join the website and stay in the background, others spend a lot of time-sharing on the forum.  The choice is yours, no one will tell you what to do in this website.  And if there are things you don’t like, just leave it aside, you will find plenty of other good stuff that can help.

Most people who come here are looking for information.

That is something that we have plenty of.  If you like to read we have lots of articles.  If you would rather watch it then we have about 6 hours of video.  If you would rather download it and go for a walk with your mp3 player or listen in the car then we have about 36 hours of audio.  If you prefer to interact with the information then we have 12 workbooks, a blog and a forum.  If you would rather that the information came to you then we have two types of daily messages (motivational and spiritual) you can sign up for so they will be delivered to your email inbox and there are also frequent newsletters.  So if information is your thing then we have something for you, in whatever way you like to consume it.

“At Bottled-up we have taken the best of traditional programs and blended it with new research, then filtered it through our own personal experience to create a new unique program of action.  Our goal was to create a program that will empower you to take more control of your life. 

The Bottled Up website was originally opened in autumn of 2009 and since then we have had time to refine the original program, through feedback from members, writing the Bottled Up book and creating a step by step version complete with audio and workbooks.”
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Using the tools in Bottled Up you can

  • Improve your home and social life
  • Reduce the impact of drinking on your life
  • Improve your relationship
  • Make it more likely that he will get help for his drinking. 

We will take you by the hand and show you step by step how to use Bottled Up to improve your life style and to help yourself.  Bottled up is designed to specifically achieve a number of goals.  These are:

  • To ensure safety for you, your family and your home
  • To improve and preserve your relationship with your drinker (although we do recognise that this may not always be possible)
  • To create a smooth dialogue between you and your drinker, where you can discuss drinking issues in a practical and productive way.
  • To give you information, advice and practical solutions and show you what behaviours only make matters worse and how to reduce them.
  • To help you feel more in control of your situation and to empower you
  • To reduce the impact of drinking on your life and family.

If you want to join us then click here.  Join bottled Up

Lou and John
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*John has authored several books as well! Here are a couple of them and can be purchased through Amazon.com*….
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John McMahon
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Product Details  Product Details
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His other two websites are also very helpful and are worth a Visit Too! http://www.iloumanate.com  & http://www.247helpyourself.com
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About 24/7 Help Yourself:

Who Developed this Site?
The online programme this site offers was developed by Dr John McMahon.  He has a PhD in Psychology and is an expert in the field of Addiction Treatment and Behavioural Change.  He has also spent many years as a therapist and has pioneered the use of computer assisted treatments since the early 1990’s. This site is the culmination of a life’s work dedicated to helping people recover from alcohol addiction.
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Why Does it Work?
Recent research shows that majority of people (4 out of 5) recover from their addiction problems without the aid of medical treatment. People help themselves using the resources and support around them.  The 24/7 Help Yourself Site adds significantly to this support network and greatly increases your chances of making a full recovery.
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What Does the Site Contain?
The video below gives you a demonstration of the site so that you can see the layout and the tools that will be at your disposal.
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*Here are a couple “Testimonials” of what others say about how 24/7 Help Yourself, and how it has helped them!*…
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“After years of thinking about my drinking problem, things finally came to a head with my spouse. Knowing that if I didn’t do something about it I was at great risk of ending it.
Like many I had thought about AA, but for reasons was not comfortable with the concept, but being at wit’s end decided I would try. I hopped on my trusty computer and “Google” for closest meeting, and there sitting on my screen was ” 24/7 HelpYourself.com “, what a catchy name. After reading overview I was intrigued. Being that I couldn’t find a meeting and was extremely uncomfortable with AA concept. I jumped in feet first.
Being 79 days in, I look back with no regrets. The information and self testing was great. Once I got involved the support and the stories just seemed to make the challenge so much easier than I envisioned. I look forward to reading the posts and at times miss not being in touch. I would strongly suggest this site, it is truly one of the better tools that I have found on the internet.”
AP, San Antonio, TX
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Lack of knowledge harmed me as much as the at risk levels of alcohol consumption. The two things I rate at the top of things I learnt from 24/7 help yourself is that total abstinence for its own sake is the wrong goal for me.  24/7 gave me the tools to reduce my consumption from 125 units to 3 units per week over a two month period and now I PREFER not to drink at all when alcohol is offered. The website has been my personal trainer and guide to a very happy lifestyle.
Jen, Australia

*So if you or someone you care for has a drinking problem, pass on this fantastic information to them and others. Dr. John & and his wife TRULY are saving and changing lives one Member at a time! When we all work together in recovery, we than can help others who suffer, and are stuck in the “Cycle” of any addiction. We need to find GOOD helpful websites like Dr. John McMahon’s to encourage those addicted to reach out for help and learn to live a better life in recovery. It’s what I do on both my blogs. We Raise Awareness and Share HOPE.*
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Here are a few places you can connect with Dr. John McMahon & Lou…
www.amazon.co.uk/Dr.-JohnMcMahon/e/B001HQ5G50

uk.linkedin.com/pub/johnmcmahon/9/927/b36/    www.yourtango.com/experts/bottled-up
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bottled-up/402509145201
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And as always, please let Dr. John that Author, Catherine Townsend-Lyon sent you!
God Bless All!
*Catherine*

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* This wonderful blog post Earned Me My 1st WordPress Milestone on my Writer Blog!! ~ Thanks John and Lou!! *

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